Do you ever wonder how some people just seem to have it all together? I always assume that everyone else has it together and that I'm the long flailer/straggler/lazy lump of the group.
I look around at groups of women and think, "How does she do it? How do her kids always look so clean and well-groomed and well-dressed? I didn't even brush my kids' hair today. How does she seem so with it? I didn't even brush my own hair today. How does she find the time to do all she does? I just piddled away another day, constantly doing something, but never finishing anything. How is she so confident and so sure of herself on the parenting front? I question every single decision I ever make and never know how the hell to handle different kid situations. Why do I feel like I'm lagging behind these other women?"
Do you do that? Or is it just me.
I've heard how men judge each other....and it is based on heirarchies and jobs and blah blah alpha dog blah blah. Full-time moms don't have those things to base their judgements on. I think full-time moms judge each other on how together they are. How great their kids are doing. How clean their house is. How much fun they're having with their families. How easy they make it look. How productive they are.
Isn't it kind of ridiculous?
I think it is. And yet, I find myself doing it. And mostly it is out of an inferiority complex or something. It is like we moms are pursuing perfection. Those that appear to have achieved it are lifted up and admired. We are all trying to get there. But, perfection is impossible. And boring. How retarded. None of us are ever going to be perfect. What a ridiculous thing to be judging each other on. Is it possible that none of us feel like we have it together? Even those that appear to?
Maybe we're all just doing our best and some of us (*Ahem*) have expectations that are a bit too high and just need to relax and go with the flow!
Or maybe, I need to get off the computer and do something productive.