Proving it is possible to be tense and lazy at the same time.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
In Which I Complicate Everything, and Yet Simplify It
I was watching SNL....and the opening credits show the actors doing various leisure activities in NYC at night. Taxis driving by, people standing in line at clubs, people standing around drinking with their friends, people loitering aimlessly on dark streets, people playing games. Just standing around outside at 2 a.m. smiling. Aimless. Not a care in the world.
And I thought, this looks NOTHING like my life. Don't those people need to get to bed? Don't they have stuff they need to be doing? Why aren't they at home scraping dried yogurt off the bottom of their kitchen table? Or sleeping? Making lists of what they have to do tomorrow? Don't they have to get up early the next day? What is wrong with those people? Where are their purses?
After my last post, I decided to get a grip on a portion of my life. I was imagining in my head how I would treat my job if I had been hired to do it. And I realized that I would do things TOTALLY differently if I had been hired and had a boss in my job of "Full Time Mom."
I need some sort of SYSTEM. I have been working on a system of piles for years now. Just put it in a general area, in a general pile and hope you find it again. It kind of works, but it is frustrating and I usually don't have that Toys R Us coupon on the day I happen to stop at the store. And I forget five of the things I needed to get at Target and I forget to pay the Home Owners Association bill and get a scary letter in the mail about what they are going to do to me.
I mean, how hard can this be? I have juggled more paperwork in various jobs without losing anything. In fact, I was always super organized and things were always done right and done on time. Maybe it is time to start treating my daily life as I used to treat my other jobs.
So, I decided to approach it from more of a career perspective. I bought a lovely black leather day planner. It is huge. And it zips all the way around. And did I ever love spending a few minutes in the Staples aisle picking it out. (Office supplies, will you marry me?) So, in that day planner is a calendar, to-do lists, coupons, bank deposit envelopes, various invitations, important hand-outs for kid things, pens, post-it notes, bills I need to pay, etc.
My plan is to get everything organized the night before, complete with a post-it note detailing the next day's events and things I have to get done.
Here is everything, all packed up and ready to go for tomorrow. Complete with post-it note reminding me to put the stroller in the car and to pack some sippy cups, and day planner zipped up and in the diaper bag.
Ahh. I love that sight. It makes me feel calm. Very calm.
Now I can relax.
But, my life still seems a million light years away from those people standing on dark city streets, fluffing their hair and laughing as they seem to have nothing on their agendas and nothing better to be doing.
I am a full-time child wrangler and shit schlepper. I am married to the funniest man in America and have two kids who like to keep toads in a terrarium. I enjoy classical singing, napping and Ruffles sour cream and cheddar chips.